Servants Meeting

Liturgical Theology

Introduction
Liturgy of Time - Introduction
Liturgy of Time - Agpeya I
Liturgy of Time - Agpeya II
Liturgy of Time - Agpeya III
Liturgy of Time - Agpeya IV
Liturgy of Time - Raising of Incense I
Liturgy of Time - Raising of Incense II
Liturgy of Time - Raising of Incense III
Liturgy of Time - Weekly Cycle I
Liturgy of Time - Weekly Cycle II
Liturgy of Time - Weekly Cycle III
Liturgy of Time - Weekly Cycle IV
Liturgy of Time - Weekly Cycle V
Liturgy of Time - Weekly Cycle VI
Liturgy of Time - Yearly Cycle I
Liturgy of Time - Yearly Cycle II
Liturgy of Time - Yearly Cycle III

 

Liturgical Theology: Theophany Feast

Historical Development of the Theophany

Egypt Before Christianity
1st Century
2nd-3rd Century
4th Century
5th Century
10th Century

The Baptism of Christ

Circumcision and Baptism
Where did Baptism Come From?
The Baptism of Christ

Themes of the Theophany

The Manifestation of the Holy Trinity

"This is My beloved Son in whom I am pleased. He has performed my will; obey Him, for He is the Giver of Life." - Verses of the Cymbals

"You have seen the Holy Spirit • coming down from heaven • and you have heard the voice of the Father • proclaiming and saying: •
'This is My beloved Son • with whom My soul is well pleased • He does My will; hear Him • for He is the Life-giver." - Second Doxology

The Sanctification of the Waters

"The sea beheld and fled, • and the Jordan turned away. • O sea, why have you fled? • Stand firm that you may be blessed. •
Behold the waters have seen • the Maker and Creator • and they feared; • agitation and confusion overtook them." - First Doxology

"The only-begotten God • came to the Jordan • and the portrait that was destroyed • and ruined by sin, •
He restored it once again • by the baptism of water; • He demolished the head of the dragon • upon the waters of the Jordan." - Second Doxology

Veneration of St John the Baptist

"A proud name is your name, • O kinsman of Immanuel. • You are great among all the saints, • O John the Baptist" - Verse of Cymbals, ⲟⲩⲣⲁⲛ ⲛϣⲟⲩϣⲟⲩ

All of the Theophany Psalis

Rite of the Theophany

The Readings
Paramoun Vespers Matthew 4:12-22 Jesus beings His ministry; prophecy from Isaiah "The people who sat in darkness have seen a great light..."
Paramoun Matins John 3:22-29 John the Baptist exalts Christ ("He who has the bride is the bridegroom; but the friend of the bridegroom, who stands and hears him, rejoices greatly because of the bridegroom's voice. Therefore this joy of mine is fulfilled."
Paramoun Liturgy Luke 3:1-18 John preaches to the people
Feast Vespers Matthew 3:1-12 John the Baptist Prepares the Way
Feast Lakkan Matthew 3:1-17 John the Baptist Prepares the Way; John Baptizes Jesus
Feast Matins Mark 1:1-11 John the Baptist Prepares the Way; John Baptizes Jesus
Feast Liturgy John 1:18-34 John's testimony of Christ
Second Day Vespers Luke 3:21-22 John Baptizes Jesus
Second Day Matins Matthew 3:13-17 John Baptizes Jesus
Second Day Liturgy John 1:35-51 "Behold the Lamb of God" - 
Theophany Paramoun

The Rites of the Paramoun are identical to that of the Nativity.

Theophany Feast
  1. Vespers Praises & Vespers if the Feast is on Sunday or Monday (because it means the Paramoun was prayed early)
  2. Veneration for St John the Baptist
  3. Midnight Praises
    • Great Canticle
    • Midnight Alleluia
    • 7 & 4 - Psali and Exposition for each Theotokia
  4. Liturgy of the Waters (Lakkan)
    • On Covenant Thursday and Apostles' Feast, the Lakkan is prayed AFTER Matins (as all church services are - wedding, baptism, etc.). On Theophany it is prayed before Matins. This is a remnant of the original practice that the Nile waters were sanctified and THEN the people went to Church to pray the Feast
  5. Matins
    • Like Nativity and Resurrection Feasts
  6. Divine Liturgy

Lakkan

Order of Lakkan
  1. Thanksgiving Prayer, Incense, Verses of Cymbals
  2. Prophecies
  3. Incense & Pauline
  4. Ⲟⲩⲣⲁⲛ ⲛϣⲟⲩϣⲟⲩ, Ⲡⲁϭⲟⲓⲥ and Trisagion
  5. Psalm & Gospel
  6. Ⲫⲛⲟⲩϯ ⲛⲁⲓ ⲛⲁⲛ
  7. Gospel Response
  8. Litanies (Sick, Travelers, Seasons, Leaders, Departed, Oblations, Catechumens)
  9. Supplications
  10. Litanies (Peace, Fathers, Assemblies) - Can be Inaudible
  11. Creed
  12. Aspasmos Adam
  13. Anaphora
  14. Absolutions
  15. Distribution
  16. Concluding Prayer
Prophecies
Anaphora

Preaching & Evangelism

In the Name of the Father, and the Son and the Holy Spirit. One God. Amen.

Who, What, Where, When, How of Evangelism

Introduction

Background

The first idea for this topic came over a year ago after the 2024 OCAD. Many of our youth - most are servants - came to me in the Youth Meeting and talked about their struggles at OCAD. They felt ill-equipped for some of the conversations that happened or the people who approached the table. Some were even discouraged at the end of the day... 

At the same time, there was a lot of excitement around OCCM and the influx of catechumens and the potential to baptize youth. And a lot of excitement about bringing catechumens and inviting them to every meeting and every convention and every outing, etc. but without seeking any guidance.

And there were several other interactions that I had with various youth since then that felt a little off...

One time there was a guy who came into the Church because he was just looking for someone to talk to. He wanted to talk to the priest... so I sat with him for a little while in private, and then he left. That evening, I heard the youth talking and excited and someone asked me about "the new catechumen."

One time I was telling the youth on Thursday that we have a baptism tomorrow before liturgy, try to make it! And there were excited faces as they asked "is it an adult baptism??" But a look of disappointment when I said "no, it's a baby."

We all rejoice when there is a new member in the Body of Christ, and when someone has gone through the catechism and decided to dedicate his life to Christ and to the Orthodox life. But the process itself requires a lot of wisdom and a lot of cooperation with the Holy Spirit to do it right.

At the same time, many youth - and especially young men - are coming to the Orthodox Church inquiring and seeking. Many of them are seeking something different than what the society in the US has to offer... the society is emasculating them and diminishing their value because they are men. So how are we to interact with these people? How are we to respond to them? Should we just baptize everyone who comes our way? Will that save them?

These are some of the ideas we will discuss in this Retreat

First topic: Who, What, Where, When, How of Evangelism

Second topic: Characteristic of the Evangelist

What is Evangelism

We'll start with the word itself: Evangelism.

εὐαγγελίζω - euangelizō - Evangelism - Preaching the Gospel

εὐαγγέλιον - Good News - (eu = good, angelion = message (like angelos = messenger)) 

Gospel - Godspel - God (Good) Spel (News, Narrative, Speech - reciting/speaking something)

Evangelism refers to the preaching or spreading of the Gospel - good news.

Why?

Why Preach the Gospel?

(See “The Harvest is Plentiful”)

  1. Evangelism is a Commandment
    • ”Go into the world and preach the gospel to every creature” (Mark 16:15)
    • ”As You sent Me into the world, I also have sent them into the world.” (John 17:18)
    • ”You are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hidden.” (Matthew 5:14)
    • ”You are the salt of the earth; but if the salt loses its flavor, how shall it be seasoned? It is then good for nothing but to be thrown out and trampled underfoot by men.” (Matthew 5:13)
  2. Evangelism is Love
    • If we love God, then we must love our neighbor; and if we love our neighbor, then we must care for their salvation. We would do all we can to rescue them!
  3. Evangelism is the Mission of the Church
    • The Book of Acts!
    • Some people say that the time of Evangelism is ended… that’s preposterous!
    • ”And other sheep I have which are not of this fold; them also I must bring, and they will hear My voice; and there will be one flock and one shepherd.” (John 10:16)
  4. Evangelism is the Outcome of the New Life
    • Evangelism is for the sake of those we are serving… I don’t gain anything from it. Is that not the outcome of my dedication to the New Life of Baptism? Is that not denying myself, taking up my cross and following Him?
  5. Evangelism is the Greatest Mission
    • Think of worldly missions… a doctor is trying to prolong life. A lawyer or judge is trying to bring about justice. A Software developer is trying to facilitate communication and knowledge. Artists are trying to bring joy to people.
    • All of this is temporary… but the mission of the Evangelist is eternal life. So it is greater than those other missions.

"Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age." (Matthew 28:19-20)

"But you shall receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you; and you shall be witnesses to Me in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the end of the earth.” (Acts 1:8)

St John Chrysostom - "There is nothing colder than a Christian who does not try to save others."

Are we Slacking? Why doesn't Orthodoxy recruit? Why doesn't she advertise? Why doesn't she evangelize the way others do? Why doesn't she simplify? Why doesn't she scale? 

A world saturated with marketing, messaging and "growth strategies" Orthodoxy is obscure...

The Church is NOT an organization or an institution... it is not a place that is trying to have many numbers and big quantity, but it is a place focused on quantity. It is the Body of Christ - not metaphorically, but literally. And it accepts members who want to join it, and then heals them. The Church is a hospital for sinners - when the sinners approach the Church, they get the treatment they need through the Sacraments.

John 6

What?

Why Bring People In?

Activity: Why do you want to bring others into the Church?

Some say "I don't want them to go to Hell."

Some say "I want them to have a Heavenly Reward."

According to St Basil, both of these are missing the mark...

Activity: What is the Gospel Message?

What is the Gospel?

How?

How to Preach Christ
How the Church Preaches the Gospel

The Church has a responsibility towards every single person in the world - not only toward the believers. Three groups of people in the world. Active Believers, Lost Sheep (who are believers but are lost) and the Non-believers.

"But you shall receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you;  and you shall be witnesses to Me in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the end of the earth" (Acts 1:8)

The Church service can be classified into three ministries - Jerusalem, Samaria, End of the Earth:

  1. Ministry of Spiritual Care (Active Members)
    • Preventative: How to prevent them from being lost
    • Nurturing: How to nurture them to grow into spiritual maturity

  2. Ministry of the Lost Sheep
    • Outreach: Searching for the Lost Sheep
    • Healing: The Lost Sheep who returns will be full of wounds - how to accept him and prepare a godly and therapeutic atmosphere to promote his healing

  3. Ministry of Evangelism (Non-Believers)
    • Preaching the Gospel
    • Grafting (Catechism)

What about Apologetics?

Who?

Who is the Evangelist?

Tomorrow we will discuss the characteristics of the Evangelist, but for now it suffices to know that NOT EVERYONE is called to Evangelize in every way or at all times.

All Christians are called to Evangelize by our good deeds, actions, words, manner of speech, manner of dress, modesty, virtue, etc.

NOT All Christians are called to Evangelize by the word…

“And He Himself gave some to be apostles, some prophets, some evangelists, and some pastors and teachers, for the equipping of the saints for the work of ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ” (Ephesians 4:11)

On top of that, some wisdom is needed when getting into Debates or Discussions. These require a different setting (e.g. NEVER Alone, NEVER with Multiple People). I have heard from many of our youth: “I attend a Bible Study with my Protestant friends and I am trying to bring them to the fullness of the faith.” What can come out of this setting? And it’s usually someone who is NOT consistent with Sunday School or Bible Study or even Liturgy. And as they are “trying to bring people” they are getting further and further from the Church. They are having more and more questions.

NOT All Christians are called to Evangelize by the word, and the one who is, needs some characteristics and some preparation which we will talk about tomorrow.

Where?

Where to Evangelize

"But you shall receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you;  and you shall be witnesses to Me in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the end of the earth" (Acts 1:8)

  1. Jerusalem: Your circle; your workplace; your school/classes
    • "Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works and glorify your Father in heaven." (Matthew 5:16)
      • By your good deeds, clean language, modesty in dress, high moral standard, smile, peace even in tribulation, joy even in suffering, patience even with a difficult personality
    • We, as Christians, permeate our society...
      • Careers: Medical Field, Engineering, Retail, Real Estate, Business, Law, etc.
      • Hobbies: Gyms, Fields/Clubs, Stores, 
      • Think of all the places you go, all the people you interact with... how many of them do you see regularly? How many see something different in you?
      • Like Christmas lights
    • We will be asked...
      • "What is the reason for the hope that is in you?"
      • "How are you able to smile so much?"
      • "How are you able to be so patient with that person (e.g. my boss, my coworker, my employee, etc.)?"
      • "Why aren't you eating meat?"
      • "Why aren't you going out drinking with us?"
      • "What are you doing this weekend?" - "What did you do last weekend?"

  2. Judea and Samaria: Your community
    • "Come and See" - needs someone to "Go and Tell"
    • E.g.
      • Nursing Homes
      • Prisons
      • Orphanages
      • Women's Shelters
      • Homeless Shelters
    • Find those who are "in need" and show them Christ, who will satisfy their needs
      • “The Spirit of the Lord is upon Me,
        Because He has anointed Me
        To preach the gospel to the poor;
        He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted,
        To proclaim liberty to the captives
        And recovery of sight to the blind,
        To set at liberty those who are oppressed;
        To proclaim the acceptable year of the Lord.”
      • Do I know someone who is poor? Or if I don't, do I know where to find the poor?
      • Do I know someone brokenhearted? Struggling... just lost someone in their family, or just found out about a hard diagnosis, or just lost their job, or going through a difficulty? Lonely? Did I preach the Gospel to them? Did I go and tell them about the Lord Christ who can satisfy their needs? 
      • Do I know someone in captivity? Or do I know where to find the captive? Or someone who is spiritually captive?
      • Do I know someone who is oppressed?

  3. The end of the earth: Global Missionary Work
Process of Catechism
  1. Inquirer
    • Bring him/her to the Divine Liturgy.
      • Not the Youth Meeting. Not Sunday School. Not Servants Meeting. Not Bible Study. Liturgy. "Come and see." 
    • Prepare them in advance (communion, men and women seating, hair covering, appropriate attire, etc.)
    • Be there and ready to accept them
    • Let them meet Abouna!

  2. Catechumenate
    • After many weeks of attending liturgies, asking questions, forming a relationship with the priest, they may be ready to become a catechumen
    • Catechism has three components:
      • Doctrinal Formation (catechism classes)
      • Liturgical Formation (liturgical praxis)
      • Spiritual Formation (spiritual canon)
    • Later in the Catechumenate
      • Community Integration
      • Service Integration
    • No less than one year
      • Discipleship
      • Liturgical Experience
      • Adequate time to learn
      • Scriptural Study
      • Time to get to know them
      • Moral Transformation
      • Doesn't end in baptism
      • Giving the best chance to succeed as a Christian
        • "And that servant who knew his master’s will, and did not prepare himself or do according to his will, shall be beaten with many stripes. 48 But he who did not know, yet committed things deserving of stripes, shall be beaten with few. For everyone to whom much is given, from him much will be required; and to whom much has been committed, of him they will ask the more." (Luke 12:47-48)
        • "Therefore whoever eats this bread or drinks this cup of the Lord in an unworthy manner will be guilty of the body and blood of the Lord. But let a man examine himself, and so let him eat of the bread and drink of the cup. For he who eats and drinks in an unworthy manner eats and drinks judgment to himself, not discerning the Lord’s body. For this reason many are weak and sick among you, and many sleep." (1 Cor 11:27-30)
        • "There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called in one hope of your calling; one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all." (Ephesians 4:4-6)
  3. Christian Initiation
    • Sacrament of Confession
    • Sacrament of Baptism
    • Sacrament of Chrismation (Myron)
    • Sacrament of Matrimony*
    • Sacrament of the Eucharist

  4. Catechism after Initiation

Workshop #1

Activity #1

A man enters the Church. You introduce yourself, and welcome him. He says "My name is Jack, I go to a non-denominational Church." How do you respond?

Scenario from work

Scenario from school

Scenario from tabling

Activity #2

For each category of church service, list services that would fall under it that you can think of.

Who is the Evangelist?

Introduction

Evangelizing to Non-Believers

From George B. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GkAmEY2cfD0 around 40min

How do we know what we know? Epistemology...

  1. Senses (Material)
  2. Mind (Concepts)
  3. Heart (People)

How do we know God?

  1. Senses? No
  2. Mind (Reason)
  3. Heart (Faith)

Evangelizing to Non-Believers, which eye do we use? Only the 2nd.

"Therefore he reasoned in the synagogue with the Jews and the Gentile worshipers, and in the marketplace daily with those who happened to be there." (Acts 17)

He cannot be seen by the 1st, and the Atheist does not know Him with the 3rd. But we must know Him by the 3rd in order to effectively talk about Him with the 2nd.

People must see Christ in your life before they hear about Him from your mouth.

Sharing our faith is like music. The words of the Gospel are like the lyrics, but your lifestyle is like the melody of the song. The melody enhances the words just as our lives enhance the message of the gospel.

Development of the Evangelist
  1. Be a Good Christian
  2. Be Merciful
  3. Be Ready to Answer
  4. Be a Wise Evangelist

These are steps in order… none of them is ever complete, but unless I first show progress in the first one, I can’t go to the second one. Unless I show progress in the second one, I can’t go to the third one. Unless I show progress in the third one, I can’t go to the fourth one. Sometimes I am jumping to the third or fourth one and completely neglecting the first or second.

Resources

2026-02-15: Benefit from the Fast

Introduction

“From the Jews five times I received forty stripes minus one. Three times I was beaten with rods; once I was stoned; three times I was shipwrecked; a night and a day I have been in the deep; in journeys often, in perils of waters, in perils of robbers, in perils of my own countrymen, in perils of the Gentiles, in perils in the city, in perils in the wilderness, in perils in the sea, in perils among false brethren; in weariness and toil, in sleeplessness often, in hunger and thirst, in fastings often, in cold and nakedness – besides the other things, what comes upon me daily: my deep concern for all the churches.” (2 Corinthians 11:24-28)

What is Fasting?

How to Fast?

"Four times a year the Church invites us to purify and liberate ourselves from the dominion of the flesh by the holy therapy of fasting, and each time the success of the therapy depends precisely on the application of certain basic rules." - Fr Alexander Schmemann (Great Lent)

The Gospel for the Pre-Fast Sunday talks about: Fasting, Prayer and Almsgiving. These three things ask us to consider our relationship with ourselves (via Fasting), with God (via Prayer) and with others (via Almsgiving).

When I fast, there will be an aspect with myself, with God and with others.

Myself: Food Aspect
God: Spiritual Discipline Aspect
Others: Mercy and Charity Aspect

The Fruit of Fasting

Fasting is NOT the fruit.

Liturgical Theology: Covenant Thursday

Introduction to Covenant Thursday

Events of the Day
Name of the Day
Gospel Accounts

Preparing the Passover

Eating the Passover

Washing the Feet

Judas' Betrayal

Eucharist

Gospel of Luke

Passover History

Given that we read the Gospel accounts of that night, now let's connect them with some of the historical context of the Passover and see if we can reconstruct the events of the Lord's Supper and see how we can benefit from it.

Rites of Covenant Thursday

Readings of the Day
1st Hour

Exodus 17:8-16

Moses lifts his hands

Acts 1:15-20

Replacing Judas

Luke 22:7-13

Prepare the Passover

3rd Hour

Exodus 32-33

Consequences of the Golden Calf


Matthew 26:17-19

Prepare the Passover

6th Hour

Jeremiah 7:1-15

Ezekiel 20:39-44

Sirach 12:13-13:1


Mark 14:12-16

Prepare the Passover

9th Hour

Genesis 22:1-19

Slaughter of Isaac

 

Isaiah 61:1-7

"Spirit of the Lord is upon me"

 

Job 27-28


Matthew 26:17-19

Prepare the Passover

Liturgy of the Waters

Genesis 18:1-23

Proverbs 9:1-11

Exodus 14, 15

Joshua 1, 3

Isaiah 4:2-4

Isaiah 55:1-56:1

Ezekiel 36:25-29

Ezekiel 47:1-9

1 Timothy 4:9-5:10 John 13:1-17
Liturgy of the Word


1 Corinthians 11:23-34 Matthew 26:20-29
11th Hour

Isaiah 52:13-53:12


John 13:21-30
Matins
3rd, 6th, 9th Hours of Thursday

Liturgy of the Waters
Liturgy of the Eucharist
11th Hour of Thursday

Contemplations, Interpretations and Meanings

Judas' Betrayal
Washing the Feet and the Mystery of Love
The New Covenant

Appendix

History of Preparing the Myron

Resources

Cited
Referenced

Liturgy of Time: Importance of the Psalms

Notes
Resources:

2026-08-16: Mistakes of the Past - Lessons in the Present

"That you may remember and be ashamed, and never open your mouth anymore because of your shame, when I provide you an atonement for all you have done” (Ezekiel 16:63)

Biblical Examples

Yesterday's mistake becomes today's lesson when God's work in my life produces a different response.

Mistakes of the Past
  1. Recognize the Mistakes
    • You should know in every confession what your weaknesses and sins are. Focus especially on those things that are repeated... there is something that in every confession, I repeat it. Sometimes I wish  I could go to Abouna one time - JUST one time - and NOT say this sin." I want to go to him one time and say "By God's grace, and by your prayers, Abouna, this situation has improved or ended." But every time I say the same thing!
    • Yesterday's mistakes teach us more than any sermon could teach us
      • When you see how much a mistake costed the Lord Christ
      • And how much a mistake costed you
      • You will HATE the mistake
    • I can identify different categories in my life:
    • Relationship with God, Others, Self
    • You can also identify categories in the service which we will talk about in the last section
  2. Don't Dwell
    • Dwell can lead to Returning to Sin
      • "Cleanse us from all blemish, all guile, all hypocrisy, all craftiness, and the remembrance of vice-bearing death."
      • I fall into judgment a lot, especially with my boss at work - because he does this and that and this and that... you just judged him again... in confession!
      • Many sins, when I dwell on them - even in an attempt to repent! - I put myself in danger.
      • I'm in a relationship and Abouna told me to end the relationship - but I keep dwelling. I keep thinking. Don't dwell!
    • Dwell can lead to Despair
      • I start to say "I cannot be forgiven" or "I am no longer a son of God" or "God will not accept me" or even "The Church will not accept me" or EVEN "Abouna will not accept me"
      • These lead to isolation which further leads to despair.
      • Mistakes Do NOT mean Failure
    • Hope not Despair 
    • The correct response to recognizing my sin is actually to have hope in the forgiveness of the Lord and the efficacy of His Blood.
  3. Learn from the mistake
    • When there's a hole in the ground - the first day, you fall in it. 
    • What about the second day? You fall in it again? No! You walk around it - actually you'll probably even announce to everyone who is with you about this hole in the ground! 
  4. Teach Others from the Mistake
    • The repentant sinner is the BEST one to bring another sinner to repentance - because he experienced it! He experienced the sin and he experienced the solution! He'll say "I was like you... this does not go away except with a FoC and Psalms and Tasbeha!"
    • When we get together and start talking about others, it only takes ONE person to say "Ah! I made a commitment that I'm not gonna talk about others and gossip and judge." 
    • Psalm 50
Lessons in the Present
  1. Change is Possible
    • Deception: You can't change - "This is your nature" - "This is your personality" - "This is who you are" - "This is your cross to carry"
    • With God, change is possible
    • Or else why would St Paul say "be transformed by the renewing of your mind"
    • Even the word repentance - metanoia - means "change of mind"
  2. Take an action
    • After every confession, every sermon, every liturgy, every SS Lesson, every Servants Meeting, etc. take an action. 
    • What are you gonna do?
    • You regretted your mistake, awesome.
    • You said it out loud and confessed it with Abouna, great!
    • You received the absolution - may God absolve you!
    • Now what? Take an action!
      • “Look, Lord, I give half of my goods to the poor; and if I have taken anything from anyone by false accusation, I restore fourfold.” (Luke 19:8)
    • Make a commitment with yourself and a commitment to God 
  3. Listen to the Wise People Around You
    • Serious People, Focused People, Eager People, Wise People, Watchful People
    • Surround yourself with those people
  4. Don't Allow the Devil to Trick you Twice... Or another time
    • Day by day or year by year
    • Goha... there's a hole in the ground in front of his house. He walks out of his house and falls into it. The next day, he walks out of his house and falls into it. Everyone is watching him day by day leave his house and fall into the same pit. So someone goes to him and says Goha! Don't you know there's a hole in front of your house - he said "No, I know!" - "Okay, so don't fall again tomorrow!" Next day, he came out and fell right into the hole again. The moral of the story is that sometimes, we don't learn from our own mistakes
      • Someone can know the problem, be able to describe it, understand it, and still fall into it.
      • "Give me chastity and continence, only not yet.” St Augustine (Confessions)
    • Don't you know that when you take the phone to your room, the night is gone? No prayer, no Bible, no self-control... how many times did that happen before? Are you Goha!?
    • Find the Root of the Problem - What happened BEFORE I made the mistake? BEFORE I fell?
      • Every time I take my phone in the bathroom, I fall into the sin of lust.
      • Every time I stay up late I fall into the sin of laziness
      • Every time I answer a phone call from flan I fall into gossip
      • Every time I go on a cruise I fall into such and such sin
      • Every time I spend time with this person I judge
      • Every time I go out after liturgy, I am late to Servants Meeting
      • Every time I go to this person's house, we gossip and we judge and we talk negatively about the service and...
      • (Meme it hurts when I do this)
    • "forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead," (Philippians 3:13)
  5. Don't Give Up
    • Every attempt is weighed
    • Every struggle makes a difference
    • Every confession
    • Every promise - even if you only last two days - makes a difference
  6. Rejoice in the Victories
    • If you overcame one time, rejoice! 
Mistakes and Lessons in the Service

This is a good framework for examining myself on a regular basis.

Now, let's take that framework and apply it to our service. This year, we will be presented with the same or similar situations as last year.

So let me prepare myself! Let me identify the mistakes I made last year in my service, especially those that I made repeatedly, and see how I can address them this year in my service. How can I diligently take yesterday's mistakes and make them lessons for today?

We have four categories and each person can focus on just one mistake from each category. The point of this workshop is not to write a lot. It's not to list out all of my failures and mistakes and how I fell short and all that. It's just to identify one area of growth in each category. None of us is perfect, and ALL of us have room to grow in every category.

  1. Mistakes in my Faithfulness
    • Being late to Sunday School
    • Not preparing my lesson adequately
      • Using AI
      • Bare minimum
      • Not going deep myself
    • Missing or being late to Servants Meeting 
    • Waiting until the last minute
    • Late to submit Lesson or Hymns

  2. Mistakes with my Fellow Servants
    • Gossiping about another servant
    • Getting angry or defensive
    • Not communicating
    • Holding a grudge
    • Not helping another servant, or letting tasks fall into the same servant's hands all the time
    • Being overly critical
    • Creating division
    • Assuming bad intention (instead of giving the benefit of the doubt)

  3. Mistakes with Coordinator, Ameen Khidma or Abounas
    • Not following through with instructions
    • Being defensive when corrected
    • Complaining instead of communicating
    • Assuming I know better
    • Not offering up my ideas
    • Being upset when my idea is not accepted/implemented/implemented in the way I envisioned

  4. Mistakes with my children
    • Spending time with my children
    • Checking on them
    • Getting to know them
      • What are their interests?
      • What extracurriculars do they do? (Play an instrument? Play a sport? Chess?)
      • What do they want to be when they grow up?
      • What is their major?
    • Visiting them
    • Encouraging them
    • Praying for them regularly, by name
    • Does every child KNOW that I love him?

Mistake of the Past Lesson in the Present
Faithfulness

Fellow Servants

Coordinator/Ameen Khidma/Abounas

Children

The change I need to make this year is: ______________________________________________________________________________________________________

One commitment I will make with myself is: _________________________________________________________________________________________________